The holiday seasons are usually associated with joy, fun, and togetherness, but for far too many people, it’s a time of loneliness, stress, and anxiety.
You might be feeling distant from your family, or dreading the holiday parties and events without a partner to bring, or friends to go out with. This is typically where a lot of people decide to stay home in order to self-preserve and shut out any possibilities for disappointments. As safe and appealing as that thought might seem to a person with holiday blues, it only amplifies the problem. If you suffer from this anxiety connected to large holidays and events, you already know that, and the chances are that you have tried to change your situation.
It is common for people who experience a strong/stronger sense of loneliness and depression during holidays to feel an emotional disconnect from the people around them. Some have forced themselves to a party they already knew they wouldn’t enjoy, just to end up feeling even more lonely in a room full of people.
If you have dreaded holidays like Valentine’s Day, New Years, Christmas, Thanksgiving, and etc. for a long time, there are certain things you can do to help you enjoy them again. Here are our suggestions:
- Be Good To Yourself
While this may not help the feelings of loneliness, it is the first step to decreasing it. Taking special care of yourself can help you to feel better and enjoy your solitude more – thus giving you the confidence and attitude you need to get out of your shell. Treat yourself to a relaxing bath, a fun movie, and your favorite treat, do what makes you feel good.
- Know That You’re Not Alone
It’s easy to feel alone in your life when other people are out socializing and attending events. Knowing that the holidays can be a lonely time for many people may help you to feel less so. Reach out on social media groups, attend discussions and support people in your situation. It will make you, and them, feel much better about yourselves and give you a confidence boost knowing that you made someone feel good.
- Rethink Your Expectations
Part of why holidays feel depressing for many people is that our culture has set too high expectations for this time of year. The lack of close friends, a romantic partner or family rarely seems more painful than during this flood of expected social activity, when we’re all meant to be going to events, giving gifts and enjoying time spent with loved ones. One way to deal with the feelings of loneliness is to re-think the reality of your situation. Realize that few people’s lifestyles truly measure up to “movie standards” of perfect living, and shift your focus to all the great things you do have in your life. Learn to appreciate what you have and actively seek out what you want in life.
We hoped these tips helped you, and If you want more help or feel like speaking to a therapist, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us at the neuroscience center: